As I write this, I am beginning a huge adventure in my life. I’ve seen these kinds of stories over and over again. On Oprah or some morning show segment. Somebody takes a huge risk and after failure after failure they finally break through and succeed. It sounds like the story of a woman who lost her job and decided to bake cookies, and made millions.
Inevitably, when I see these kinds of narratives there’s always somebody (sometimes me) thinking snarkily “must be nice”… I never say that kind of thing out loud because it’s just bad energy even though that’s usually not what I meant.
My thinking is that I can get tired of seeing stories of people hitting it big after they started out in a position that allows them to succeed at something big. It does not mean that anything was handed to them or that they didn’t work hard for what they achieved. But admittedly, I was falling prey to some flawed thinking.
What is it that others always had that I never had?
Everyone’s life is drastically different so there is no use in nor way to compare one to the other. There is another factor at play as well, which is someone’s level of risk adversity, which also cannot be compared.
I realized that every single living human has some unique combination of perceived advantages and willingness to take risks. So I started thinking of my own. And oh, how refreshing this was! Being a soon to be single empty nester with no career aspirations in a quickly spiraling shithole country suddenly became a flex. This is my story and I get to decide how it goes. I’ve decided that I am taking some risks, moving to a whole different country, reliant on remote self employment to live my best, most fabulous life.
This is not to say that there are not times when running off to fulfill some wild ass dreams is not wise, but it is such a highly individual assessment and decision that can’t be made by anyone except the liver of the life. And who says the moves need to be so dramatic? Sometimes we do something small, other times it’s ripe to blow the lid off.
What would you do if you suddenly felt like the planets were lined up perfectly to make your wildest dreams come true?
