Gurl, let me tell you. It’s August 2025 and I’m on my very own mission to reset my zest for life. I have been helping women for years with restoring happiness as their default way of being but nothing quite the huge scale I’m about to take myself through starting now.
By huge scale I mean I’m uprooting everything I’ve built with my husband over the last 30 years and starting all over, fresh, single, in a whole ‘nother country. I’ve never lived outside the US before. I plan to be out 6 months from now. It’s a great adventure but it’s also stressful and I know it will be hella rewarding.
Now, I’ve done lots of things in my life and some would consider me to be a trailblazer. I walked on the line between a traditional life (degrees, marriage, motherhood, homeownership, good gov’ment job…) and a free spirit (professional bellydancer, tantra instructor, writer,…). Decades later, I’m different and these things aren’t serving me anymore.
I don’t want to give out all my details just yet, but I want to share with you a brief glimpse into my thought process and change in mindset. Make no mistake here, for the first time in my life I’m going for it ALL. I am making my wildest dreams come true. I’ve been thinking about these things for years and years:
- I used to live near the beach in Florida and always wanted to live a coastal life again. But, on the path I was on that was impossibly cost prohibitive.
- I’m 55 but because I was a late career bloomer and started out poor, I see no way to retire in the traditional sense, so I’ll be required to make my own money, preferably doing something I don’t hate, and doesn’t require 40 hours a week in somebody’s office. This means entrepreneurship, something new.
- Since I was a child I wanted to live outside the US. I attempted to join the foreign service and I even majored in international relations in undergrad. Those things just never panned out.
- I’ve visited around 15 countries in my life and Trinidad & Tobago is my favorite, for many reasons.
- I live in Washington DC. I’ve loved this city since I consciously moved here back in 1993. It’s been a great life but I don’t feel the same about it now. I’m no longer a wide eyed 20-something. This place has become ultra gentrified, unbelievably expensive, crowded, annoying and it’s time for a change. I’m moving to a tiny Caribbean island of majority friendly Black people in a developed country who love to party, enjoy delicious food and the best music, and all the beaches are public. Paradise!
- The United States is on its way to hell in a MAGA handbasket. I am highly offended that so many voted for a disgusting, reality tv conman over the most (objectively) highly qualified person to be president in the entire history of this country because just like me, she is a Black woman lawyer from an HBCU. Racism, misogyny, stupidity, cruelty and religious fundamentalism reigns supreme, from the top to the bottom. This tells me that nothing will change within what’s left of my lifetime so it’s the perfect time to say “peace out, bitches!” and make my Blaxit.
My closest friends of the longest time think that I’m fearless. (I once had to do a poll for a project) But the truth is I have a whole lot of fear! But my curiosity cancels out the fear and I do what scares me anyway.
So it might be crazy, it might be a lil messy but whatever, I feel it is important to show you first hand what this roller coaster called life can look like when you decide to take your long term happiness into your own hands.
Come with me on this journey (sign up below). I promise it won’t be boring, and it may just get you to rethinking things in your life that you would like to change to fulfil your own wildest dreams.
